How To Know Whether You Are Ready For A CommittedRelationship?
If you desire a long lasting, healthy, and fulfillingrelationship with a partner whom you can share life with,then you need to arm yourself with the knowledge ofattracting your highest and best partner who will align withwho you are.
Mastering the right relationships skills is crucial to yoursuccess to creating the relationship of your dreams withyour loved one. If you start with the right foot, with theright knowledge and understanding of who you are attractingand what you are going into, you can almost insure yourselfa long lasting and happy relationship.
1) Intimacy
Closeness with a person takes time to develop. And there’smore to intimacy than physical contact. Intimacy can mean ahug during a tough time, a smile of encouragement in theface of adversity and compassion when you least feel likegiving. Don’t abuse or take advantage or the other person.
And don’t let yourself be abused or taken advantage of.Intimacy takes commitment and sharing. Ask yourself if youwill be willing and patient enough to take time to developcloseness with another person. If you find that you cannoteven handle your own emotions during a tough time, then itis almost a sure sign you need to work on yourself morebefore you even commit to a relationship.
2) Are you able to say "No"?
You don’t always have to be voiceless or agree with someonein a relationship. Be able to say, “No” and be anindividual, too.
Ask yourself if you will be able to maintain your uniqueindividuality while in a relationship. Do you find it hardto be alone at times when your partner is not around?
Do you find yourself fearful of saying "No" when you reallymean it?
If you find you have a tendency to shift your centre andfocus onto another person to the extreme, then, you wouldneed to work around this and bring about a balance foryourself and your partner. Being in a relationship does notmean you have to change for another person. It does meangiving your partner space, and giving yourself space.Remember you are sharing life together, not taking charge ofthe other person's life!
3) Do you find keeping in touch a hassle?
Many couples tend to make the mistakes of taking each otherfor granted after a certain period into a relationship. Wetend to get so caught up in our work life that we forgetthat we need to make the effort to keep our relationshipalive too.
Don’t let life separate you too long. With technology today,you can stay in touch with cell phones and email. No need tooverdo it and be obsessive and controlling, but do stay intouch off and on throughout the day with quick “Hellos” and“How are things going?”. Make the Honeymoon Last. Rememberhow your felt when you first got together? Do those littlethings that you did at the beginning and make the honeymoonlast.
Bring home fresh flowers, shut off the television, turn onsome music and dance with your mate, compliment your mate,make dates to go to places you used to frequent (the oldneighborhood pizza parlor, a local drive in, a hotel youwent to on your honeymoon, etc.). If after reading all theseyou find these are all hassles, then, you are not ready fora committed relationship.
4) Nuts and Bolts
Don’t focus so much on the “nuts and bolts” of who saidwhat, when, how often and why they were wrong…. In otherwords, sometimes during an argument, try losing your memoryof who did what, when and how many times in the past.Instead, humble yourself, apologize for having messed up andhug your mate! If you feel you’ve been pushed to the limitand don’t want to try one more time, close the door on thatangle of the issue. Take a walk, get some ice cream and cooloff (literally). Then return relaxed and refreshed, andopen a window to air differences.
5) Trust
Healthy relationships involve people who trust one another.One person doesn’t get involved in unhealthy risks with athird party or lie to the other. There is an open, positiveexchange of trust. So if this is lacking, seek help from aprofessional counselor, if necessary, and see what’s wrong.If you feel stuck in past emotional issues or you findyourself unable to forget your ex from a past failingrelationship, you need to resolve this before you thinkabout going into a committed relationship.
Are you ready for a committed relationship? Are you ready tosettle down? If you meet someone you like today, would yoube ready and available for them? The above considerationsmay help you to decide on just this.
Many couples tend to make the mistakes of taking each otherfor granted after a certain period into a relationship. Wetend to get so caught up in our work life that we forgetthat we need to make the effort to keep our relationshipalive too.
Don’t let life separate you too long. With technology today,you can stay in touch with cell phones and email. No need tooverdo it and be obsessive and controlling, but do stay intouch off and on throughout the day with quick “Hellos” and“How are things going?”. Make the Honeymoon Last. Rememberhow your felt when you first got together?
Do those little things that you did at the beginning andmake the honeymoon last. Bring home fresh flowers, shut offthe television, turn on some music and dance with your mate,compliment your mate, make dates to go to places you used tofrequent (the old neighborhood pizza parlor, a local drivein, a hotel you went to on your honeymoon, etc.).
If after reading all these you find these are all hassles,then, you are not ready for a committed relationship.
But, If you are ready that you owe it to yourself to look into this further, and right NOW!
Mastering the right relationships skills is crucial to yoursuccess to creating the relationship of your dreams withyour loved one. If you start with the right foot, with theright knowledge and understanding of who you are attractingand what you are going into, you can almost insure yourselfa long lasting and happy relationship.
1) Intimacy
Closeness with a person takes time to develop. And there’smore to intimacy than physical contact. Intimacy can mean ahug during a tough time, a smile of encouragement in theface of adversity and compassion when you least feel likegiving. Don’t abuse or take advantage or the other person.
And don’t let yourself be abused or taken advantage of.Intimacy takes commitment and sharing. Ask yourself if youwill be willing and patient enough to take time to developcloseness with another person. If you find that you cannoteven handle your own emotions during a tough time, then itis almost a sure sign you need to work on yourself morebefore you even commit to a relationship.
2) Are you able to say "No"?
You don’t always have to be voiceless or agree with someonein a relationship. Be able to say, “No” and be anindividual, too.
Ask yourself if you will be able to maintain your uniqueindividuality while in a relationship. Do you find it hardto be alone at times when your partner is not around?
Do you find yourself fearful of saying "No" when you reallymean it?
If you find you have a tendency to shift your centre andfocus onto another person to the extreme, then, you wouldneed to work around this and bring about a balance foryourself and your partner. Being in a relationship does notmean you have to change for another person. It does meangiving your partner space, and giving yourself space.Remember you are sharing life together, not taking charge ofthe other person's life!
3) Do you find keeping in touch a hassle?
Many couples tend to make the mistakes of taking each otherfor granted after a certain period into a relationship. Wetend to get so caught up in our work life that we forgetthat we need to make the effort to keep our relationshipalive too.
Don’t let life separate you too long. With technology today,you can stay in touch with cell phones and email. No need tooverdo it and be obsessive and controlling, but do stay intouch off and on throughout the day with quick “Hellos” and“How are things going?”. Make the Honeymoon Last. Rememberhow your felt when you first got together? Do those littlethings that you did at the beginning and make the honeymoonlast.
Bring home fresh flowers, shut off the television, turn onsome music and dance with your mate, compliment your mate,make dates to go to places you used to frequent (the oldneighborhood pizza parlor, a local drive in, a hotel youwent to on your honeymoon, etc.). If after reading all theseyou find these are all hassles, then, you are not ready fora committed relationship.
4) Nuts and Bolts
Don’t focus so much on the “nuts and bolts” of who saidwhat, when, how often and why they were wrong…. In otherwords, sometimes during an argument, try losing your memoryof who did what, when and how many times in the past.Instead, humble yourself, apologize for having messed up andhug your mate! If you feel you’ve been pushed to the limitand don’t want to try one more time, close the door on thatangle of the issue. Take a walk, get some ice cream and cooloff (literally). Then return relaxed and refreshed, andopen a window to air differences.
5) Trust
Healthy relationships involve people who trust one another.One person doesn’t get involved in unhealthy risks with athird party or lie to the other. There is an open, positiveexchange of trust. So if this is lacking, seek help from aprofessional counselor, if necessary, and see what’s wrong.If you feel stuck in past emotional issues or you findyourself unable to forget your ex from a past failingrelationship, you need to resolve this before you thinkabout going into a committed relationship.
Are you ready for a committed relationship? Are you ready tosettle down? If you meet someone you like today, would yoube ready and available for them? The above considerationsmay help you to decide on just this.
Many couples tend to make the mistakes of taking each otherfor granted after a certain period into a relationship. Wetend to get so caught up in our work life that we forgetthat we need to make the effort to keep our relationshipalive too.
Don’t let life separate you too long. With technology today,you can stay in touch with cell phones and email. No need tooverdo it and be obsessive and controlling, but do stay intouch off and on throughout the day with quick “Hellos” and“How are things going?”. Make the Honeymoon Last. Rememberhow your felt when you first got together?
Do those little things that you did at the beginning andmake the honeymoon last. Bring home fresh flowers, shut offthe television, turn on some music and dance with your mate,compliment your mate, make dates to go to places you used tofrequent (the old neighborhood pizza parlor, a local drivein, a hotel you went to on your honeymoon, etc.).
If after reading all these you find these are all hassles,then, you are not ready for a committed relationship.
But, If you are ready that you owe it to yourself to look into this further, and right NOW!
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